It’s difficult for people to know what they want, and even more difficult to express it publicly. But neither of these initial challenges stopped you from getting in the game and showing up to play. You should feel good about this. HOWEVER... Getting in the game and showing up to play is not the only necessary key to winning. So let’s have a look at the next necessary piece. And for that, I invite you to ask yourself, how much you want it. How much do you want the thing you say you desire? Let’s look at that today as you respond in your journal to the following questions, with the following rules:

1. answer each question without reading ahead

2. there are no right or wrong answers, just answers that determine whether or not this game serves you or doesn’t serve you

3. On a scale of 1-100, how much do you desire what you shared?

4. If you answered less than 50, I’m going to ask that you choose right now in this moment to be more committed and revise your answer to #1. If you answered above 80, are you willing to risk your life for it? If yes, continue. If no, go back and revise your answer to #1 and don’t exaggerate yourself to be higher than 80 on the scale.

5. Alright, if you answered above 50, what do you perceive as the biggest obstacle to accessing this thing? (keep it brief, honest, and succinct)

6. Do you believe you can access this thing in a year’s time? If not, why? If so, how strong is your belief on a scale of 1-10?

7. Write in your notebook which of the following ways of thinking are you already aware that have negative impact on your ability to access this thing:
   *fear, perception of lack (lack of money, time, influence, support, etc...),
   *self doubt (ability, capacity, not good enough, etc...),
   *aversion (I won’t do that, I don’t like that person, I don’t want to do it this way, etc...),
   *preference (I only do this, I only like this way, it has to be in these specific words, etc...)

8. We know that upset is an indication of some form of disintegration in your way of thinking or being. So looking at the Deeper Dive from the Desire lesson, what forms of upset did you note (sadness, anxiety, anger, helplessness, loss of control, desperation, frustration, etc…)

9. What methods have you already attempted or begun to implement in order to access this thing you say you desire?

10. What are your predictable counterproductive behaviors? (What do you know about your way of thinking, believing, or behaving, that could get in the way of access?)

11. Review your original desire and compare it with your perceived outcome. (If I have___then_____) Is your original desire the only pathway or source for that outcome? If your answer to this is yes, are you sure? If your answer is no, are you open to explore other pathways and sources to get what you truly want? (which would be the outcome, rather than the source)

12. What kind of support do you need around acquiring access? (be specific and brief)

13. Who are the characters in your life (friends, family, neighbors, teachers, authorities, etc...) whom you predict will be most supportive of your effort to access this?

14. Who are the characters in your life who you predict will be most judgmental or disapproving of your effort to access this? (titles not names)